Dear Isaiah,
we all know from your earlier messages in the FORUM that you are a very polite and humble man but when it comes to rated games trhe time factor is always part of the competition. Givong extra time and granting take backs belongs to unrated games in my opinion.
It´s always a nice experience to meet people with a friendly and polite behaviour. There are a lot of them in LICHESS. Thanks for a nice story.
_ _ _ As I have said in other threads, in my experience chess has always been a tool for friendship. My chess memories are not about how well I played but about the friends I enjoy the game with...
_____ My 'favorite opponents' have quickly evolved into those who manage to convey some civility and personality over the 'wire' -- otherwise, you are just playing with a machine that provides faulty computers as opponents...
____ Of course, you are right about time & rated games. In fact, you have helped me realize that some people may be bothered by my going beyond 'hi' in the chat box --- they may feel as though they are being coerced into talking at the expense of their chess time. That is life -- we act and adjust.... Actually, that is one reason why I now play @ 90% correspondence games.
My buddy RollBuckeyes used the notes feature to publish A GOOD NOTE on a player (Knives).... WHAT A CONCEPT --- I must confess that I only thought of using 'notes' in a negative fashion...
------------- It was really refreshing to see someone sharing positive feedback
This is a nice thread.
On lichess I frequently come across people who are nicer and kinder than the average people are. I could think quite a lot of examples of them but the one most recently was a few days ago when my mouse battery died in the middle of a game. After I wrote about it in the chat box using the tab button, my opponent offered me a draw. It was a nice gesture albeit I couldn't accept since I couldn't replace my battery in time.
It is really good to be able to play against such tactful people from time to time regardless of the results of the games. Those kind of friendly experiences make you love the game even more. After all, it's what chess is mostly about.
I wouldn't say that chess is mostly about friendly experiences, but I do appreciate a noble player.
^^ Yeah, recalling many non-friendly experiences as well, I agree that it's not unfortunately. But I guess I just spoke my wish-full thinking or I don't know maybe my own opinion about chess since I'm not a competitor at all but I play the game entirely in a recreational understanding.
Every time I play, after the match I type gg, well played even if I lose the game. If they ask for rematch I always accept it, and if I dont have time, I say. No thx, I have no time. thx for the game. Doesent cost you anything to type this thing .
@ Toljamo -- yes, but so few do it...
At what point does common courtesy become meaningless? How many times do I have to "talk" to my neighbors:"How are you"? followed by "fine, yourself?" and then mention the weather.
I always do this in real life, and I tend to repeat these gestures here too, but is it really something to be proud of?
It is the grease/ the WD-40 of our social, mamalian selves... Behind the often 'meaningless' words is a world of latent meaning....
Take 2 mushrooms & call me in the morning o philosophical one